Still married to the blog
By AndrewBoyd • Sep 26th, 2007 • Category: Blogging tipsIn Married to the Blog? I wrote:
Without going into specifics, or naming names, it is fair to say that intense blogging puts a strain on any relationship. Between afterwork and blogging I get no small amount of grief from my partner, and I know that others get the same reaction. It is hard to avoid thinking about this sort of thing - is the discord a symptom of deeper problems or is blogging the root cause?
I have to ask the question again, because I still don’t have an answer for it: is it possible to blog every day and maintain a live-in relationship? Is it only possible to do this if you work from home or can otherwise get the blogging done while the other half is away?
I’m not sure that it is.
AndrewBoyd is a consultant by day and blogger by night. He loves good food, good wine, and discussing faceted classification schemes with friends.
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How odd. I didn’t think you spent your entire free time blogging (or do you?) so I can’t see why it is a problem. Blogging is as much a creative pastime as painting, reading, writing, craft, gardening, or whatever it is we all spend non-work time doing.
It’s way better way of spending time than watching TV!
Hi Donna,
thank you for your comment.
No, I don’t spend every spare moment blogging
Sometimes it might seem like that - I do spend a lot of time on the keyboard at home doing afterwork, research and, yes, blogging.
I agree entirely - it is time better spent than watching the idiot box.
Best regards, Andrew
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perhaps some people get genuine mental stimulation from the “idot box”. Try to see it from a person’s point of view who doesn’t blog or who is not a very computer minded person. I think it could put a huge strain on a relationship.
It’s good to encourage hubby’s to find a hobby to keep them busy while wives blog - building a deck,renovating the house,landscaping the backyard have worked wonders to date,but I’m running out of things to keep him busy…LOL.
Hi Cathy,
thank you for your comment.
It can indeed put a huge strain on a relationship. This is why we should all be able to talk about it as bloggers - before the divorce papers fly.
Best regards, Andrew
Hi Jayne,
thank you for your comment.
That is a good idea - encourage the partner to have an interest too.
Hope it keeps working for you
Best regards, Andrew
Funny you should say that we need to talk about it as bloggers. I would have thought it more important to talk to your partner about it if it is indeed putting a strain on your relationship. I have seen relationships fall apart over this issue. I think it’s important to find a happy medium. Perhaps we also need to re-access how important our relationships are.If we are spending no end of time blogging & other keyboard work no matter what it may be, I can understand the partner feeling no end of grief as you put it. I know it can become an obsession, we need to keep control.
Hi Cathy,
thank you for your comment. Of course, communication is important.
Perhaps relationships should be about sharing rather than control.
Best regards, Andrew
We have the computer in our living area. I can blog and be with the family at the same time. They joke about it, but it works for us. I also get up early and blog, which also works for me.
Hi Colin,
thank you for your comment.
My laptop is in the living area too - it hasn’t helped
Seriously though, I am glad that this works for you. Family is very important.
Best regards, Andrew